Here Is Why You Should Know Your WorthApr 26, 2021
Chances are you’ve heard of this scenario many times before.
“I want a higher salary.”
My client was frustrated.
She didn’t feel appreciated for the work she was doing for her employer and the number of hours she put into her job, which let her compromise her own needs, health, family, and friends.
I asked, “what are you worth?”
She explained all the things she did, her flexibility, and employee-first mindset.
What she missed was highlighting the value she generated for the company.
That is a typical conversation, I often experience with new clients.
Self-worth comes in many formats
Feeling appreciated for who you are and what you do is one of the most uplifting things you can ever experience.
Appreciation increases your self-acceptance, self-love, self-care, self-esteem, and self-confidence. Because of that, it’s important to know your worth.
Self-worth may show up in many areas like:
- school grades
- love relationship
How to find your worth
If you don’t know the value you generate and what makes you different, the chances are, when in a negotiation situation your “worth markers” don’t come across. You end up feeling disappointed, frustrated, or bullying the other person for lack of appreciation.
If you want to work on your worth, discover the real value you create. Forget processes and tools. They just lever you to achieve your outcomes.
Next time you are up for any type of negotiation, highlight what makes you unique and the value you create. In the case of salary negotiation, help your manager understand what you help him/her resolve and enable the company to achieve.
My story of self-worth
When I was in high school, my history teacher told me I was only worth a D grade. I claimed I was worth more but no. The meeting took place only a few months before my final exam.
When the meeting was finished, I told myself “I am going to prove him wrong”. I still remember this self-talk so clearly. And this “worth” attitude has been a part of me ever since.
At the oral exam, I proved my worth. Boom! I got B+. I proved my worth and boy I felt good.
Never let people downgrade your worth. If you surround yourself with people who think less of you, seek new grounds. You are worth much more.
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