Do You Make These Mistakes? If You Do, You Better Take Charge NowFeb 25, 2023
I recently came to the realization that I had been sabotaging my own success by overthinking. It’s an all-too-common trap that many of us fall into; trying to analyse every single detail and constantly questioning our decisions can quickly lead to feelings of doubt and insecurity.
In my case, this ultimately led to me playing it safe and not trusting my own instincts or judgment in critical moments.
I was intimidated by the authority figures around me – kings and queens, so to speak – and felt that I couldn’t measure up to them. This feeling had a paralyzing effect on me and prevented me from taking risks even when I knew that there were better solutions available. As a result, I shied away from seizing opportunities instead of taking control of them, making sure that any progress I did make would be minimal at best.
My overthinking had become a serious obstacle to my own success, as it kept me from actively pursuing my deepest goals and fulfilling my potential. This constant self-doubt was preventing me from moving forward with confidence and conviction, instead relying on external validation for reassurance about the choices I was making.
Here’s some of the consequences of accepting my status quo:
- I disregarded all of my own moral and ethical standards by choosing to work with a broker, who profited from my skill and expertise as a top advisor.
- I was always extra diligent when reading emails to make sure that none of my communication could be misinterpreted, but I wasn't allowing myself to relax or feel satisfied with what I had accomplished.
- I was unable to trust my own capabilities and felt compelled to accept an industry-standard payment model that did not reflect the value of my knowledge or how much effort had gone into competing for assignments.
- I worked +60 hours a week to compensate for the many hours I spent overthinking not daring to play full out and step into my true power as a trusted advisor.
- I failed to put myself first. I always checked my inbox thinking that was the way to serve my customers.
- Life was good but I felt bored and not fulfilled. The assignments were not on a level that mentally challenged me which affected the level of quality I delivered and how I showed up.
By serving everyone else but myself, I was blocking myself from achieving anything meaningful in life.
The story luckily doesn’t end here. Here’s how I broke free from the chains of self-sabotaging:
- After meeting a mentor who expressed doubts that I would be able to make a living from coaching, I decided to take control of my own destiny and break free from any relationships or thought patterns that no longer served me.
- I began to heavily invest in personal development courses, coaches and mentors whose values aligned with the impact I wanted to create in this world.
- I discovered the power of small but consistent changes over time; focusing on making 2% improvements on a daily basis as opposed to expecting sudden drastic change - something often referred to as 'compounding'.
I crafted my perfect life and was committed to succeed:
- I began to surround myself with people who have already achieved success in the areas I am striving towards leads me to benefit from their wisdom and learn more efficiently. Additionally, it is important not to overlook the significance of taking responsibility for both my successes and failures.
After coming to terms with this newfound realisation, the effects of my decisions quickly became evident. By prioritizing activities that invigorated me while removing negative influences--both tasks and people--that consumed me, I was eventually able to make substantial progress towards securing a 6-month contract. This was not an easy feat, as it had taken a significant courage to believe in myself before ending my association with the initial mentor.
The message I want to leave you with is this: Ultimately, your success is entirely within reach if only you allow yourself the confidence needed to take risks and move forward with clear purpose. It’s time now for you to break free from this cycle of self-sabotage and start believing in yourself more often than not!
By the way…. if learning more hacks to effortless success and having meaningful conversations with other like-minded individuals sounds appealing to you, join us at Leaders' Saloon this Wednesday! The conversation will be fascinating and full of amazing insights—we look forward to seeing you there! Here’s the link to register.
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